Self love isn’t a destination: It’s a journey.
In a world that wants our self-esteem low and anxiety over our body image high, it’s incredibly hard to reach a place in your life where you’re actually content with who you are.
Using self love journal prompts not only helps make this process a little easier and improves self-esteem at the same time, they also boost our self-awareness, which is always a good thing!
Self love journals can be really affective for improving self-esteem, how to start a self love journal, and give you some good examples of self love journal prompts.
What is journaling for self-love?
Self love is the pursuit of happiness, contentedness and wellbeing in oneself.
I always say it’s not a destination, it’s a journey, because reaching a place where you’re 100% totally completely truly happy with yourself and everything about you is almost impossible. We’re always growing, adapting and changing.
Plus, we’re human.
We have hung-ups and insecurities that may improve but never fully go away.
I’ve been working on my self love for years now and while I’m at a place where I completely respect and love myself for who I am, I don’t think I – or anyone for that matter – will ever truly reach a place of 100% self love.
And that’s okay!
I’m just enjoying the ride and loving myself a little more everyday.
After using self love journal prompts myself, I’ve realised my self-worth.
Journal prompts geared towards improving self love are – as you’ve probably guessed – journal prompts that focus on helping you on your self love journey.
They help improve self-esteem, self-worth, self-acceptance, and self-awareness. They’re all about the self.
Since we’re often conditioned to believe that putting ourselves first is a bad thing, isn’t it refreshing to finally spend some time working on yourself?
What are some good self love journal prompts?
#1. How old were you when you first started thinking negatively about yourself? Do you remember what triggered it?
#2. What aspects of yourself do you not like and why?
#3. What are your parents’ views of themselves?
#4. What parts of you would you like to improve? Why?
#5. What traits/qualities do you admire in other people?
#6. What emotions come up when you compare yourself to other people?
#7. How do you deal with envy when it comes to comparing yourself to other people?
#8. What parts of you do you actually like or even love? Why? Let’s talk about them.
#9. How heavily do other people’s opinions influence how you look at yourself?
#10. Do you ever get anxious about or doubt who you are as a person? When?
#11. Write about a situation that made you feel unworthy.
#12. Write about a situation that made you feel loved and appreciated.
#13. When was the last time you felt truly content in your own body? Let’s write about it.
#14. What are your favourite self-care activities? What really works for you?
#15. Write about a time someone insulted your appearance. How did you react and how did that affect you going forward?
#16. What are you really good at?
#17. What is something you’re good at that you hide from the world?
#18. What are your shadow traits?
#19. How do you show love to other people?
#20. What’s your main love language? What makes you feel most loved? Why do you think this is?
#21. Write three self love affirmations that resonate with you and repeat them out loud or in your head.
#22. How do you plan to challenge negative self-talk in the future in order to promote more self love?
#23. What are three things you like to eat that make you feel good mentally and physically?
#24. What are three positive habits you can start that will help you love yourself more?
#25. Write about a time where you felt powerful.
#26. Write about a situation where you felt unconfident, but ended up bossing.
#27. What does self love mean to you as an individual?
#28. What is failure to you? How do you typically react to failure?
#29. What’s your favourite outfit that makes you feel most confident?
#30. Who do you look up to? Do you have any role models or celebrities you admire? What qualities do they have that you like?
#31. What are five things about yourself and your life that you’re grateful for.
#32. What is your biggest achievement?
#33. Is physical appearance important to you? Why might that be?
#34. When do you feel the most like your true self?
#35. When do you feel most content and peaceful?
#36. How would self love change your life?
#37. What would you tell your childhood self now, if you could?
#38. What would you tell your teenage self now, if you could?
#39. Imagine a new you, full of self-love. What would they look like? How would they act? What would your life be like?
#40. List five reasons you deserve to love yourself.
#41. Write a love letter to a part of you that you haven’t shown respect to over the years.
#42. What does forgiveness mean to you? Do you have trouble forgiving yourself? Why do you think this is?
#43. Are their traits that you see in yourself that you also see in other people close to you that you don’t like? Why do you not like them? How can you work on these?
#44. What are 10 things that make you smile.
#45. What makes you feel most confident?
#46. What makes you feel most comfortable in your own skin?
#47. What are three self-care activities you can do every single day?
#48. Why do you feel unworthy? Have you always struggled with feelings of unworthiness?
#49. What are three things you KNOW you’re too hard on yourself about?
#50. What are your self love goals?
Do journal prompts work for self love?
Self love journal prompts are really, really affective.
Well, firstly, journal prompts the perfect way to get you started on your journaling ~journey~.
They take out the guess work when it comes to actually sitting down and writing about yourself in your journal. (This also makes them a major stress-saver in this respect.)
This means that you can simply sit down with your journal, pick a prompt, and get writing instead of faffing around over what you’re going to write about.
Secondly, self love journal prompts allow you to totally focus on yourself – journaling is self-care after all – which improves self-awareness.
Improving self-awareness helps you embrace who you really are at your core as a human being – shadow traits and all – which leads to a better mindset overall.
- Related – 30+ Shadow Work Journal Prompts
What do I write about myself in a journal?
Journaling is a form of self-expression, so you should always listen to your intuitive when it comes to what to write.
However, using self love journal prompts is a good place to start.
Journal prompts for self love will literally prompt you on what to write about yourself.
They’ll get you thinking, reflecting, and observing how you feel so that you can unpack it and work on improving it.
In addition to using self love journal prompts, I really recommend also looking into practising:
- Gratitude journaling
- Writing affirmations
- Scheduling in self-care
All these practises put together can have a life-changing, positive impact on your mindset, self-esteem, and mental health.
I know because this is the method I used to improve mine!
- Related – 62 Journal Prompts for Depression
How to start a journal
Starting a self love journal is much like starting any other journal aimed at personal development.
I have a whole post on how to start a journal, if you want to check it out.
My main steps for starting a self love journal are:
- Buy a pretty journal (+ stationary) that you want to pick up and write in
- Decide what you want to journal about other than self love (for example, gratitude, self-care, affirmations, etc)
- Draw/write your layout or use a journal printable that aligns with your intentions (I currently sell journal printables on my Etsy shop, if you want to take a look)
- Sit down to journal without distractions (I recommend doing this first thing in the morning before the world wakes up)
- Pick your self love journal prompt for the day (pick one that resonates with you, that you’re drawn to on that particular day, or pick one completely at random – the choice is yours)
- Set a timer as you journal if your time is limited
- Meditate afterwards to clear your mind (especially if you’ve been doing shadow work)
As well as journaling, some other tips to help improve self love that I personally use are:
- Practising self-care every single day without fail – I actually schedule it in
- Challenging negative self-talk with positive affirmations
- Setting boundaries, ESPECIALLY with people close to me – my energy is now sacred to me
- Wearing clothes that I like – not clothes that I’m expected to wear – and expressing myself through my own personal style
- Shadow work
- Forgiving and accepting myself for being human (which is part of shadow work, but worth mentioning on its own as self-compassion is scientifically proven to improve self love)
- Social media self-care – I unfollow anyone who makes me feel bad about myself or unworthy in any way and follow positive, kind people in their place
It’s a lot. I know.
It takes time.
But honestly, the self-awareness and self-respect this has helped me achieve is nothing short of life-changing.
I take no s***.
I’m a more secure, confident person.
I understand why I’m an awesome person.
At the same time, I also hold myself accountable and know which areas of myself I need to work on.
It’s totally worth it.
I understand I’m not perfect – no-one is – and that’s okay because I’m human.